When has reading someone else's opinions ever been good!!!!??

I thought this would be funny and pretty entertaining to do. Note that a lot of what I say is subject to change over time and that people are not static!!!! I will be wrong and I will change my opinions over the years. Time passes.

Fujoshis

I don't really 'get' the disdain I see towards Fujos online. I only speak English so my knowledge here isn't as all-encompassing as I would like it to be but I've noticed a lot of vitrial towards Fujos tends to be from teenagers? I mostly see it on Tiktok which I'm being honest which is already a red flag seeing as there's a fuck tonne of dumb teens on there(as per usze). Taking a teenager's opinion posted onto Tiktok as being the viewpoint for an entire group or even the predominant viewpoint is pretty stupid let's be real. But the sheer mount I've seen different people saying the exact same things gets a little baffling.
I keep seeing the point that Fujos are "fetishizers" and predominantly "straight cis women" , which I just don't believe is true LMFAO. Keep in mind I am speaking as someone who engages in and lurks in English-speaking fan communities, I am aware these things vary significantly in different places, but all the the Fujoshis I know are queer, not to even mention Fudanshis. I find the disdain for the term "Yaoi" in western fanspaces vs "Boys Love" to be rather troubling as well. Practically they are used for the exact same works, different places and authors just prefer the different words which is fair enough. But it's when people become hostile to the term itself for a reason they can't explain which bothers me. I see people saying "Oh! Yaoi is for pornographic works!!" But a large amount of malexmale pairings use that term when the work is non-explicit, and calling back to the origin of the term Yaoi doesn't mean anything because words significantly change overtime, especially because of how they are being practically used (see the word "Ultimate" if you want an example of this lol) .
In my opinion I do believe (from what I've seen) that the hostility a lot of people have towards the term "Yaoi" feels like xenophobia and not wanting to use a 'foreign' term. ESPECIALLY with how people like Alice Oseman talk about it. Talking about "Boys Love" as if it some 'pure' and 'wholesome' genre whilst "Yaoi" is 'written by cishet women for cishet women' , 'fetishistic' and 'always explicit'. If you bother taking a loot at how the terms are actually being used this just isn't true, and taking into the fact alot of people parroting these views also refuse to engage with queer media outside their own, often Western-European bubble I can't help but think this veers into racism and Xenophobia.
Why is the American "Boys Love" comics viewed as more pure than the Japanese "Yaoi" when they share the same themes and stories? And I'm afraid I haven't even gotten to the weird misogyny that floats around these discussions too. GOD